Boosting Self Image

Self image is a combination of two self impressions. These two, are impressions of who we are and how we are. It takes the form of a belief in both cases. Beliefs are formed by conclusions we reach. These conclusions result from dysfunctional thinking. Tap here to read about Dysfunctional Thinking  

We need to understand that we are the ones who make the conclusions and hold them at heart to be true. It is the that they convert into beliefs. And these are the beliefs that together structure our self image.

Who I am: 

The self image bolsters my self confidence because I have no doubt in my mind about who I am. It weakens my self confidence when I have doubt in my mind about who I am. See words at the end of this blogpost used by people who lack self confidence and have doubts about themselves.

I am an employee in a company, bank, government office or for that matter a home maker. 

My self image is strong and powerful when I perceive myself as contributing to the existence, growth, strength and image of the organisation.

My self image happens to be negative when I see myself as an ordinary employee who has been employed out of mercy and I am working there to earn my wages.

How I am: 

A strong self image expresses the belief that I am strong, strong minded, bold, courageous, independent, capable, skilled, talented, intelligent, hard working, diligent, leader, can think for myself. A weak self image expresses belief that I am weak, weak minded, easily bullied, dependent, incapable, lack skill and talent, not intelligent, try hard, careless, cannot lead, cannot think for myself. See words at the end of this blogpost used by people who lack self confidence and have doubts about themselves.

Beliefs are based on our choices and self conclusions. These can be changed when we tell ourselves that they are needlessly limiting. They may have been necessary at a particular age but hold no relevance today. Besides now I have grown, my role has changed, my life position has changed or my responsibilities have changed and therefore I can make new choices. 

Words that reveal uncertainty:

• Perhaps/maybe. ...
• Probably/possibly – these two words can confuse even native speakers. ...
• Apparently. ...
• As far as I know/ as far as I am aware. ...
• To the best of my knowledge. ...
• Not to my knowledge. ..
• I imagine/suppose/guess.
• I hope
• I think
• I believe