How to be a happy, satisfied person

Maintain a log book about all people with whom you interact with, on a day to day basis.

Allocate one sheet for each of them. I am sure you will need ten sheets. Remember the first sheet is for yourself and the remaining in descending order of importance and affect. Now you are done.

Write one good thought about each of them for every single complaint you have about them.

1. Who they are

2. How they are

3. What they do

4. Why they do

5. Its benefit for me

By the time you finish one page for each you will have no grudge or complaint.

You will be a changed person.

How to improve ourself

1. By assuming responsibility for our thinking, feelings and behaviour.
2. By seeking opportunities to be a better me.
3. By being more appreciative less concluding.
4. By becoming free of being judgemental.
5. Learning something new every day.
6. By accepting our mistakes and remedying them.
7. By accepting ourselves as we are then working to achieve improvements.
8. By reflecting constructively.
9. By upping motor skills.
10. By learning new methods of problem solving.
11. By learning to build and nurture relationships.
12. By solving at least two puzzles a day.
13. By consciously knowing what we are engaged in at least ten times a day.
14. By improving the quality of our communications.
15. By using I more often than you.
16. By using non violent communication model to obtain our needs.
17. Being appreciative of others’ compulsions.
18. Accepting that new challenges will keep on being thrown at us and not to be surprised by them.
19. By becoming progressively competent in ending mind talk and emotional logjams.

Self Improvement

This is reproduced from my answer on Quora. How can we work on Self-Improvement.

Self improvement can be individual and general.

Individual self improvement areas can be identified by drawing a circle and dividing it into eight parts and four concentric circles like it appears below:

Now mark in each part how much satisfied you are with the present state.

I have marked and circled the score. The picture now appears as shown below:

We now arrange the items from highest to lowest that is from most easy to work on to least easy to work on. The list will now appear as given below:

1. Friends 90%
2. Fun 80%
3. Personal 80%
4. Health 60%
5. Family 60%
6. Work 50%
7. Relationships 40%
8. Travel 30% Here % is correct but wrongly marked.

Daily work on them for an hour at the most.

Now start with top three items and decide what three things you can do to gain improvement. You can complete the tasks in a week.

Next do same for next two. That you can complete in a week.

Next do for remaining three one week for each.

Thus you would have achieved notable progress in five weeks.

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Now coming to general improvement. We use same process replacing with new items. These can be physical, intellectual, skills, mind related thinking management, mind related feeling management, skills, communication verbal, communication written / expression. You can replace these with others like team work, motivation, leadership, public speaking, time management and the like.

Here you can do a task a day for four items for two weeks.

In this way you will be a better person in six weeks.

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Now redo the exercise for each afresh. Does the picture look better.

A word about goal setting. Goals need to be broken into objectives and activities. So if I have a goal set in communication lasting one week I will have daily objectives and related activities. We focus on activities once mapped.

I wish you good luck and success. I have used it to be a top achiever in my life.

Originally Answered: How can we work on self-improvement during a lockdown?

Two Chair Method for Self Improvement

A key method used in Gestalt therapy is the Empty Chair Technique. This simple approach is designed to allow you to work through interpersonal or internal conflict. It helps you see the situation from a different perspective and gain insight into your feelings and behaviors. ... Then, you speak to the empty chair.

Gestalt - Two Chair method

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