How self talk impacts our morale and self worth.

Is your Self Talk positive or negative? 

When we are anxious, sad, angry, resenting or depressed then we unconsciously choose negative self talk. 

When we are in situations or people which are difficult or toxic we are feeling-

Low in confidence

Low self esteem 

Lack self belief

Confused

Not sure 

Seeking validation

Pleasing others

And we are constantly beating ourself with negative self talk. 

So what can you do to ensure your mental and emotional balance is in place?

Choose to-

Walk away for situations or people which makes you feel negative about yourself.

Focus on what they are feeling rather than what they are saying to create such a situation.

Focus on yourself and ask is it really true?

If yes then what can you do about it? 

Learn shift and grow.

If it’s not true then drop it. 

At times we hold to others beliefs, values, thoughts, emotions and make it ours. 

This happened in a session yesterday when my Coachee was stuck with emotions which was not his and he was doubting himself on one of the feedback he received in his 360 degree report and in his 35yrs of total experience he is been recognised for his behaviour and leadership. 

When I asked is there anything for your to learn and grow for yourself?

He said ‘NO’

I asked him what makes you still carry this?

He shared curiosity who shared and his belief of not wanting to harm others. 

This was disturbing him so much that it made him feel his role is no more challenging. 

If you can related this in your life the. Seek help to work on your beliefs. 

Your journey is how you can maintain your balance even when you are around such situations or people and Choose to empower, engage and inspire. 

Choose positive self talk. It boosts your confidence. And make things possible. 

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by Ranu Khandelwal @ +91 98200 87055

Boosting Self Image

Self image is a combination of two self impressions. These two, are impressions of who we are and how we are. It takes the form of a belief in both cases. Beliefs are formed by conclusions we reach. These conclusions result from dysfunctional thinking. Tap here to read about Dysfunctional Thinking  

We need to understand that we are the ones who make the conclusions and hold them at heart to be true. It is the that they convert into beliefs. And these are the beliefs that together structure our self image.

Who I am: 

The self image bolsters my self confidence because I have no doubt in my mind about who I am. It weakens my self confidence when I have doubt in my mind about who I am. See words at the end of this blogpost used by people who lack self confidence and have doubts about themselves.

I am an employee in a company, bank, government office or for that matter a home maker. 

My self image is strong and powerful when I perceive myself as contributing to the existence, growth, strength and image of the organisation.

My self image happens to be negative when I see myself as an ordinary employee who has been employed out of mercy and I am working there to earn my wages.

How I am: 

A strong self image expresses the belief that I am strong, strong minded, bold, courageous, independent, capable, skilled, talented, intelligent, hard working, diligent, leader, can think for myself. A weak self image expresses belief that I am weak, weak minded, easily bullied, dependent, incapable, lack skill and talent, not intelligent, try hard, careless, cannot lead, cannot think for myself. See words at the end of this blogpost used by people who lack self confidence and have doubts about themselves.

Beliefs are based on our choices and self conclusions. These can be changed when we tell ourselves that they are needlessly limiting. They may have been necessary at a particular age but hold no relevance today. Besides now I have grown, my role has changed, my life position has changed or my responsibilities have changed and therefore I can make new choices. 

Words that reveal uncertainty:

• Perhaps/maybe. ...
• Probably/possibly – these two words can confuse even native speakers. ...
• Apparently. ...
• As far as I know/ as far as I am aware. ...
• To the best of my knowledge. ...
• Not to my knowledge. ..
• I imagine/suppose/guess.
• I hope
• I think
• I believe