How self talk impacts our morale and self worth.

Is your Self Talk positive or negative? 

When we are anxious, sad, angry, resenting or depressed then we unconsciously choose negative self talk. 

When we are in situations or people which are difficult or toxic we are feeling-

Low in confidence

Low self esteem 

Lack self belief

Confused

Not sure 

Seeking validation

Pleasing others

And we are constantly beating ourself with negative self talk. 

So what can you do to ensure your mental and emotional balance is in place?

Choose to-

Walk away for situations or people which makes you feel negative about yourself.

Focus on what they are feeling rather than what they are saying to create such a situation.

Focus on yourself and ask is it really true?

If yes then what can you do about it? 

Learn shift and grow.

If it’s not true then drop it. 

At times we hold to others beliefs, values, thoughts, emotions and make it ours. 

This happened in a session yesterday when my Coachee was stuck with emotions which was not his and he was doubting himself on one of the feedback he received in his 360 degree report and in his 35yrs of total experience he is been recognised for his behaviour and leadership. 

When I asked is there anything for your to learn and grow for yourself?

He said ‘NO’

I asked him what makes you still carry this?

He shared curiosity who shared and his belief of not wanting to harm others. 

This was disturbing him so much that it made him feel his role is no more challenging. 

If you can related this in your life the. Seek help to work on your beliefs. 

Your journey is how you can maintain your balance even when you are around such situations or people and Choose to empower, engage and inspire. 

Choose positive self talk. It boosts your confidence. And make things possible. 

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by Ranu Khandelwal @ +91 98200 87055

How to build a good self image.

 Here is a way to develop self image and boost self esteem..

The qualities you are required to write have got to include ways of perception, evaluation, assessing, concluding and judging, and also ways of expressing anger, dislike, love and affection.

1. Write ten parent-like qualities in you. Three - four matching your father, three - four matching your mother and three matching some other elders whom you closely know.
2. Write ten adult-like qualities in you.
3. Write ten child-like qualities in you.
4. Write ten things you do well.
5. Write ten things in you others like and or appreciate.

Complete this exercise thoughtfully in a week to 10 days.

Now keep the list in hand while seated or standing in front of the mirror.

Say this to yourself (x three times I AM GOOD. I AM BORN FOR A PURPOSE. I AM ON MY WAY TO BECOME A LEGEND) first looking into your eyes. Then again while looking at your face. Then again looking at your whole self. Now follow the process repeating two items each from the five classifications given above. It will take you upto half an hour. Devote it for self improvement. Do it for one month. Soon enough you will identify worth, value, things to be proud of in you. A new you will be born.

Here are twelve activities from  https://psychcentral.com/lib/12-simple-activities-you-can-do-to-start-building-self-esteem-today/  that will also help you to achieve it:

1. Make yourself the priority.
2. Stop being a people pleaser.
3. Watch yourself for your adorable qualities.
4. Stop blaming others and also expecting from others.
5. Watch your own self talk and bring changes in it that need change.
6. Dont condemn yourself for your mistakes.
7. Acknowledge your successes.
8. Be grateful.
9. Nurture a positive attitude.
10. Commit to your decisions.
11. Learn to say no.
12. Be generous to others and recall your contributions.
13. Love yourself.

These are marginally altered by me.