Cathexis

cathexis n

"concentration or accumulation of mental energy," 1922, from Latinized form of Greek kathexis "a holding, retention," from kata- "down" (see cata-) + ekhein "to hold, possess, retain" (from PIE root *segh- "to hold"). Used by psychologists to render Freud's (Libido)besetzung.

cata-

word-forming element meaning "down, downward," but also "through, on, against, concerning," etc., from Latinized form of Greek kata-, before vowels kat-, from kata "down, downward, down from, down to," from PIE *kmt- "down, with, along" (source also of Hittite kattan (adv.) "below, underneath," katta "along with"). Occasionally in Greek it had senses of "against" (catapult) or "wrongly" (catachresis), also "along, through, over, across, concerning." Also sometimes used as an intensive or with a sense of completion of action (catalogue). Very active in ancient Greek, this prefix is found in English mostly in words borrowed through Latin after c. 1500.

Segh-

Proto-Indo-European root meaning "to hold."

It forms all or part of: Antioch; asseverate; asthenia; asthenosphere; cachectic; cachexia; calisthenics; cathexis; entelechy; eunuch; epoch; hectic; Hector; ischemia; myasthenia; neurasthenia; Ophiuchus; persevere; schema; schematic; scheme; scholar; scholastic; school (n.1) "place of instruction;" severe; severity; Siegfried.

Psyche

Psyche n.

1640s, "animating spirit, the human spirit or mind," from Latin psyche, from Greek psykhē "the soul, mind, spirit; life, one's life, the invisible animating principle or entity which occupies and directs the physical body; understanding, the mind (as the seat of thought), faculty of reason," also "ghost, spirit of a dead person;" probably akin to psykhein "to blow, breathe," also "to cool, to make dry."

Psychoanalysis n 

"the theory or therapy of treating mental disorders by investigating unconscious elements and bringing repressed fears and conflicts to the patient's awareness," from Psychoanalyse, coined 1896 in French by Freud from Latinized form of Greek psykhē "the soul, mind, spirit; understanding" (see psyche) + German Analyse, from Greek analysis (see analysis). Freud earlier used psychische analyse (1894).

Psychology n.

1650s, "the study of the soul," from Modern Latin psychologia, probably coined mid-16c. in Germany by Melanchthon from Latinized form of Greek psykhē "breath, spirit, soul" (see psyche) + logia "study of" (see -logy). The meaning "science or study of the phenomena of the mind" is attested by 1748, in reference to Christian Wolff's "Psychologia empirica" (1732). The modern behavioral sciences sense is from the early 1890s.

Psychic adj.

1872, "of or pertaining to the human soul" (earlier psychical, 1640s), from Greek psykhikos "of the soul, spirit, or mind" (opposed to somatikos), also (New Testament) "concerned with the life only, animal, natural," from psykhē "soul, mind, life" (see psyche).

Libido

Libido n

"psychic drive or energy, usually associated with sexual instinct," 1892, carried over untranslated in English edition of Krafft-Ebing's "Psychopathia Sexualis"; and used in 1909 in A.A. Brill's translation of Freud's "Selected Papers on Hysteria" (Freud's use of the term led to its popularity); from Latin libido, lubido "desire, eagerness, longing; inordinate desire, sensual passion, lust," from libere "to be pleasing, to please," from PIE root *leubh- "to care, desire, love" (source also of love).

also from 1892

Leubh-

Proto-Indo-European root meaning "to care, desire, love."

It forms all or part of: belief; believe; furlough; leave (n.) "permission, liberty granted to do something;" leman; libido; lief; livelong; love; lovely; quodlibet.

It is the hypothetical source of/evidence for its existence is provided by: Sanskrit lubhyati "desires," lobhaya- "to make crazy;" Persian ahiftan "to be tangled, be hit down, be in love;" Latin lubet, later libet "pleases," libido, lubido "desire, longing; sensual passion, lust;" Old Church Slavonic l'ubu "dear, beloved," ljubiti, Russian ljubit' "to love;" Lithuanian liaupsė "song of praise;" Old English lufu "feeling of love; romantic sexual attraction," German Liebe "love," Gothic liufs "dear, beloved."

LOVE n

Old English lufu "feeling of love; romantic sexual attraction; affection; friendliness; the love of God; Love as an abstraction or personification," from Proto-Germanic *lubo (source also of Old High German liubi "joy," German Liebe "love;" Old Norse, Old Frisian, Dutch lof; German Lob "praise;" Old Saxon liof, Old Frisian liaf, Dutch lief, Old High German liob, German lieb, Gothic liufs "dear, beloved"). The Germanic words are from PIE root *leubh- "to care, desire, love."

The weakened sense "liking, fondness" was in Old English. Meaning "a beloved person" is from early 13c. The sense "no score" (in tennis, etc.) is 1742, from the notion of playing for love (1670s), that is, for no stakes. Phrase for love or money "for anything" is attested from 1580s. The phrase no love lost (between two people) is ambiguous and was used 17c. in reference to two who love each other well (c. 1640) as well as two who have no liking for each other (1620s, the usual modern sense).

To fall in love is attested from early 15c.; to be in love with (someone) is from c. 1500. To make love is from 1570s in the sense "pay amorous attention to;" as a euphemism for "have sex," it is attested from c. 1950. Love affair "a particular experience of love" is from 1590s. Love life "one's collective amorous activities" is from 1919, originally a term in psychological jargon. Love beads is from 1968. Love bug, imaginary insect, is from 1883. Love-handles "the fat on one's sides" is by 1967.

How self talk impacts our morale and self worth.

Is your Self Talk positive or negative? 

When we are anxious, sad, angry, resenting or depressed then we unconsciously choose negative self talk. 

When we are in situations or people which are difficult or toxic we are feeling-

Low in confidence

Low self esteem 

Lack self belief

Confused

Not sure 

Seeking validation

Pleasing others

And we are constantly beating ourself with negative self talk. 

So what can you do to ensure your mental and emotional balance is in place?

Choose to-

Walk away for situations or people which makes you feel negative about yourself.

Focus on what they are feeling rather than what they are saying to create such a situation.

Focus on yourself and ask is it really true?

If yes then what can you do about it? 

Learn shift and grow.

If it’s not true then drop it. 

At times we hold to others beliefs, values, thoughts, emotions and make it ours. 

This happened in a session yesterday when my Coachee was stuck with emotions which was not his and he was doubting himself on one of the feedback he received in his 360 degree report and in his 35yrs of total experience he is been recognised for his behaviour and leadership. 

When I asked is there anything for your to learn and grow for yourself?

He said ‘NO’

I asked him what makes you still carry this?

He shared curiosity who shared and his belief of not wanting to harm others. 

This was disturbing him so much that it made him feel his role is no more challenging. 

If you can related this in your life the. Seek help to work on your beliefs. 

Your journey is how you can maintain your balance even when you are around such situations or people and Choose to empower, engage and inspire. 

Choose positive self talk. It boosts your confidence. And make things possible. 

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by Ranu Khandelwal @ +91 98200 87055

A good poem for Sr. Citizens

एक अच्छी कविता. 

 प्रिंट करें या काटें...

 दोनों रिटायर हो चुके थे

 क्योंकि इसे कभी भी पार नहीं किया गया

 फिर भी स्थिति ठीक थी

 वह हाथों में हाथ डाले चल रही थी

 वह राजा था और वह रानी थी

 जिंदगी गा रही थी

 वह झूल रहा था

 कृतार्थ कृतज्ञता का जीवन जी रहा था

 अचानक उनकी तबीयत बिगड़ गई

 फिर भी पंचायत हुई

 वह बहुत सक्रिय थी

 लेकिन, किसी तरह ये गुजर जाता है

 अब वह सतर्क हैं

 तुरंत बीमा कंपनी से संपर्क करें

 विरासत को पुनः आश्वस्त करता है

 मृत्यु प्रमाण पत्र तैयार करता है

           

 अगले दिन वह बैंक जाता है

 पासबुक अपने हाथ में रखती है

 डेबिट कार्ड को मशीन में डालता है

 उससे पैसे निकलवाता है

 उसे फिर से ले जाता है

 बिजली और पानी के दफ्तर में जाता है

 वह उसे लाइन में खड़ा कर देता है

 वह बिल का भुगतान करने के लिए समझाता है

 अचानक उसे एक सरप्राइज देता है

 एक टचस्क्रीन मोबाइल रखता है

 वाई-फाई, बताता है नेट का मजा

 एक नया साथी जोड़ता है

 वह बाहरी दुनिया में चलने लगती है

 हर लेन-देन देखने लगता है

 उसका आत्मविश्वास बढ़ने लगता है

 वह राहत महसूस करते हुए धीरे-धीरे मुस्कुराता है

 वह उसमें बदलाव देखती है

 वह जानता है कि मन में क्या है

 थोड़ा-थोड़ा समझ में आता है

 इसकी चिंता है

 एक दिन कुछ घटित होता है

 वह कुछ मज़ाक करती है

 नकली बीमारी

 बिस्तर पर ही रहता है

               

 वह सुबह-सुबह चाय मांगती है

 और रसोई अस्त-व्यस्त हो जाती है

 चाय में चीनी कम होती है

 फिर भी वह इसकी सराहना करती हैं

 नाश्ते के लिए एक उपमा बनाई गई है

 लेकिन, यह हल्दी के रंग में काफी रंगा हुआ होता है

 दिन पर दिन बीतता जाता है

 और वह किचन में मास्टर बन जाता है

     

 किसी को पहले जाना होगा

 कोई तो पीछे रह जाएगा

 लेकिन, बाद अब नहीं रुकेगी

 और चिंता का कोई कारण नहीं होगा

 सह-अस्तित्व का सिक्का चल रहा है

 यह जमीन पर गिरेगा

 सबसे पहले, जब कांटा बैठता है, तो छाप दिखाई देती है

 सवाल वही है...

 - राजन पोल

 7588264328

 सभी वरिष्ठ नागरिकों को शुभकामनाएँ और उनके अच्छे स्वास्थ्य और समर्थन की कामना करता हूँ।

Marathi Original

एक छान कविता. छापा की काटा...

दोघांचीही निवृत्ती झाली होती 

साठी कधीच ओलांडली होती

अजूनही परिस्थिती ठीक होती

हातात हात घालून ती चालत होती

तो राजा ती राणी होती

जीवन गाणे गात होती

झुल्यावरती झुलत होती

कृतार्थ आयुष्य जगत होती

अचानक त्याची तब्बेत बिघडते

मग,मात्र पंचायत होते

तिची खूपच धावपळ होते

पण,कशीबशी ती पार पडते

आता तो सावध होतो

लगेच इन्शुरन्स कंपनी गाठतो

वारसाची पुन्हा खात्री करतो

मृत्यू-पत्राची तयारी करतो

           

दुसर्‍या दिवशी बँकेत जातो

पासबुक तिच्या हातात ठेवतो

डेबीट कार्ड मशीनमध्ये घालतो

तिलाच पैसे काढायला लावतो            

पुन्हा तिला सोबत घेतो

वीज-पाण्याच्या ऑफिसात जातो 

तिलाच रांगेत उभं करतो

बिल भरायचं समजाऊन सांगतो

अचानक तिला सरप्राईज देतो

टचस्क्रीन मोबाईल हाती ठेवतो

वाय-फाय, नेटची गंमत सांगतो

नवा सोबती जोडून देतो

बाहेरच्या जगात ती वावरू लागते

प्रत्येक व्यवहार पाहू लागते

कॉन्फीडन्स तिचा वाढू लागतो

निश्चिंत होत तो हळूच हसतो     

बदल त्याच्यातला ती पहात असते 

मनातलं त्याच्या ओळखतं असते

थोडं थोडं समजतं असते 

काळजी त्याचीच करत राहते

एक दिवस वेगळेचं घडते

ती थोडी गंमत करते

आजारपणाचा बहाणा करते

अंथरूणाला खिळून राहते

               

भल्या पहाटे ती चहा मागते

अन् किचन मध्ये धांदल उडते

चहात साखर कमी पडते

तरीही त्याचे ती कौतुक करते

नाष्ट्यासाठी उपमा होतो

पण,हळदीच्या रंगात खूपच रंगतो

दिवसा मागून दिवस जातो

अन् किचनमधला तो मास्टर होतो

     

कोणीतरी आधी जाणार असतं

कोणीतरी मागं रहाणार असतं

पण,मागच्याच आता अडणार नसतं

अन् काळजीच कारण उरणार नसतं

सह-जीवनाचं नाणं उडत असतं

जमीनीवर ते पडणार असतं

आधी, काटा बसतो की छापा दिसतो

प्रश्न एकच छळत असतो...

-राजन पोळ

७५८८२६४३२८

सर्व जेष्ठ नागरिकांना शुभेच्छा आणि आयूरारोग्य, आधार मिळो हीच ईश्वरचरणी प्रार्थना.

Friendship

I am sharing because I count ours as one.

Ten thoughts about friendships. 

1. When a friendship lasts longer than seven years, it will last a lifetime. 

2. Never mind losing a friend, because a true one will never be lost. 

3. Friendship is not about who you spend time with, it is who you have the best time with  

4. A strong friendship doesn't need a daily conversation, doesn't always need togetherness. 

5. Best friends make your problems, their problems, so you don't have to go through them alone. 

6. A true friend is someone who sees the pain in your eyes, while everyone else believes in the smile on your face. 

7. Only true friends tell you to your face, what others were saying behind your back. 

8. Friends walk that extra mile, spare time for you, to help you out of your presenting problem.

9. Friends see the good side of you, when you are presenting the worst ones.

10. Friendships are meant to last without the need to be maintained.

Autonomy - Enjoying Freedoms Responsibly

Autonomy

Enjoying Freedoms Responsibly

Autonomy

Meaning : Autonomy is the resident capacity enjoyed by countries, states, organisations, teams, groups, families and individuals to make informed, uncoerced choices and decisions.

Personal Autonomy - It is a capacity  individuals are entitled to enjoy as the freedom to TFEBADPR responsibly with due consideration for self and others maintaining congeniality and an affectionate relationship.

Minimum Restrictions

Do No Harm - not to self, not to others, not material, not financial, not harming  congeniality, free of discord, sane, safe, effective, appropriate and win win generating, freedom granting first to others, then to self, types to TFADBP why personality rules all, persons are missing.

Exercising fidelity : Fidelity implies strict and continuing faithfulness to an obligation, trust, or duty. ... allegiance suggests an adherence like that of citizens to their country. Here by deliberately  upholding Value, Worth, Dignity, Esteem and Respect in, of and for self and others by witholding urges, impulses, drives and desires. Fidelity also means holding back - by patiently waiting, delaying and postponing action or response also by diverting attention to a new activity.

Limiting factor that restricts it's availability.

Personality - a resident psychological structure modelled, controlled and structured by influence of the psyche based on own beliefs about self, others particular and generally, quality of life entitlements and limitations in the service of directing life to achieve one's psychocybernetic destiny goal.

Stages of human development : 

We grow to be adults passing through stages of infancy, early, mid and later childhood, puberty, teenage and youth years. We make choices, conclusions and decisions relevant to our capacities and faculties available for the age and stage that we are ferrying through. They become installed as adaptations. The adaptations control our compulsions, limitations, inhibitions and prohibitions.

Fate and Destiny : Fate - A preordained life plan rewarded at birth. Destiny - a preordained life plan we reward ourselves by the way we think, feel, emote, act, do, behave based on conclusions, choices and decisions we make when going gets tough or when we are threatened, challenged, cornered, isolated, left helpless or pushed to the wall.

What grants autonomy. It is the mind, health of the mind, state of the mind and condition of the mind that grants or denies autonomy. 

What is the mind - Mind is a name to objectify faculties and capacities to TFADBPR also to EACD also for Attitude, Orientation, Temperament, also for Creativity, Innovation, Imagination, Mentation meaning the capacity to consciously consider something carefully, Reality Testing - Subjective, Objective, Rationality Based, Financial, Familial, Social, Normative and many other.

What grants health to mind - psyche

What is the psyche - it is a resident programme that abducts, kidnaps, sways away, sweeps the autonomy of the mind.

How it controls, directs, structures and colours the way we think, evaluate, assess, rationalise and conclude statements, persons, events, happenings, situations, problems, difficulties, occurrences, conditions, challenges.

Why does this occur - It occurs because humans are tamed animals. There are wild, trained, domesticated and tamed animals. Humans are the most tamed animals. 

How does taming occur. It occurs during childhood due to the parenting meted out to us. What is said to us, about us and what will happen of us. Also due to absence of a peaceful environment, frequently stressed environment at home, discord between parents, fights and arguments, threat, intimidation, abuse, curse, astrological, numerological, palmistry predictions also what is told or heard as prophesy, oracle, destiny and fate.

Where and how does autonomy show up. It shows up as physical, mental, psychological, emotional health, as quality of relationships - in marital, family, business, employment areas, financial well being, stress free living, freedom from sway of addictions and the like.

Again what is autonomy. I am repeating what was said before.

Meaning : Autonomy is the resident capacity enjoyed by countries, states, organisations, teams, groups, families and individuals to make informed, uncoerced choices and decisions.

Personal Autonomy - It is a capacity individuals are entitled to enjoy as the freedom to TFEBADPR responsibly with due consideration for self and others maintaining congeniality and an affectionate relationship.

Exercising do no harm, sane, safe, effective and win win generating. 

How to know. What happens again and again which I do not like.

Time keeping

Personal, Family, Marital, Social, Business, Employment Relationships

Fights, quarrels, arguments, heated discussions, allegations, blaming or getting blamed, 

Dissatisfactions

Life not on track

Stress management

Conflicts

Debts

Responsibilities 

Financial Well being, Losses

There is another kind of Autonomy.

It is TFEBAD EACARR responding and relating autonomy.

This autonomy is rewarded when we work on the taming programme. The destiny generator.

It has three components. They are

1. Awareness

2. Spontaneity

3. Intimacy

1. Awareness - Normal awareness and psychological awareness. Psychological awareness makes us aware what is happening within us when we read, listen, watch, observe and notice what happens out there. In the world, nationally, between communities, socially in various circles, within our house and office and in meetings also on the road.

The questions to ask are :

1. Where am I

2. What am I doing

3. What is happening out there, there

4. What is my mind engaged in / with

5. What are the feelings experienced by me , anger / angry, dislike, hate, sad, anxious, fearful, worried, hurt, pained, insulted, isolated, helpless, alone, lonely, justifying, evaluating, assessing, drawing conclusions, blaming, stressed, tired, or guilty. Or Get away from or Get rid of or  Getting nowhere.

Psychological awareness continued 

1. Between me and another

2. Between others

3. Social

Follow through after event, incident, interaction.

Interpersonal

Interpersonal

Intrapsychic

Spontaneity

1. Generating a sane, safe, effective, win win generating response

2. Upholding cordiality, love, affection 

3. Replacing discord by cordiality

4. Generating and establishing a productive positive rewarding outcome.

Intimacy

1. Gaining capacity for honest, open, level, candid, non threatening factual expression or communication

2. Quickly forgetting the ongoing event line, story.

3. Implementing forgiveness

4. Forgetting the painful outcome and who did what and why.

5. Establishing corfiality

6. Silencing the downspin thinking mind talk or log-jams or emotionally hyped log-jam.

Can all this be achieved. Yes.

How. By attending a structured life changing training.

Duration 6 months once a week for 3 hours.

Follow up for 3 years 

Fees for 6 months 90k

Special offer advance payment 50k

To know more contact Rama

Or send sms to 9730738922

giving your name, age, profession and occupation and suitable time to talk. 

Ask for a evaluatiing questionnaire. I will revert with a phone call.

Enlightenment. What is it? Who is an Enlightened Person?

This is the answer I wrote on Quora on 11th August 2023.

An enlightened person is one who knows reality as fact free of distortion.

So what is reality? Reality has these qualities :

1. Is-ness
2. Being
3. Existence
4. Ever living
5. Indestructibile
6. Universal undivided one-ness
7. Flawless
8. Ever present
9. Everywhere
10. Potent
11. Creativity
12. Sustenance
13. Non partial
14. Availability
15. Obtainable as yet free of possession

The person does not get trapped into the trap of myth. Words are identifiers. The real exists without words. It is beyond identifier words and also beyond descriptives.

A million words do not help to know it nor to express it. One who knows, knows without words - as that is it - thathastoo.

This statement comes closest. It is one. Without another. Not but it. Everlasting. Neither born nor begets. Ever present - indestructible. It is flawless. It is beyond blemish. Free of possessiveness. It is close as yet far, here there everywhere, always, for ever.