Rewarding Married Life

People can claim that their married relationship is rewarding provided : 

1. They express affection outside the bedroom.

2. They do not gossip about each other.

3. They hug and kiss to start the day and hug and kiss to end it.

4. They move towards the bedroom together each night.

5. They continually do small things for each other.

6. They celebrate in their partner's accomplishments.

7. They stand together and refuse to let outsiders call the shots.

8. They set aside time to regularly check in with each other.

9. They know how to say sorry and mean it.

10. They don't make assumptions about their partner's feelings - they ask.

11. They keep dating and treat date night as a sacred ritual.

12. When they argue, their goal is to come to a consensus, not to "win".

13. They are intimate about everything.

14. They say what they mean and mean what they say to each other.

15. They listen intently before replying.

16. They refuse to play the blame game.

17. They make daily sacrifices for each other.

Viman Udaana Ek Din Main Seekho

A hilarious story.

एक बार एक विमान का एक सफाईकर्मी सफाई कर रहा था .

विमान में उसके अलावा कोई नहीं था.सफाई के दौरान उसके हर्ष का ठिकाना ना रहा, जब उसने विमान के कॉकपिट में एक किताब देखी, जिसका शीर्षक था,

* मात्र एक दिन मे प्लेन उड़ाना कैसे सीखें *

उसकी बचपन की दबी इच्छा शायद आज पूरी होने वाली थी.

उसने पहला पृष्ठ खोला:

"इंजन स्टार्ट करने के लिए, लाल बटन दबाएं .."

उसने ऐसा ही किया, और हवाई जहाज का इंजन चालू हो गया ..

वह खुश हुअा और अगले पृष्ठ को खोला ...

"हवाई जहाज को चलाने के लिए, नीला बटन दबाएं .."

उसने ऐसा किया और विमान ने एक अद्भुत, अविश्वसनीय गति से आगे बढ़ना शुरू कर दिया ...

मगर वह तो उड़ना चाहता था उड़ना, इसलिए उसने तीसरा पृष्ठ खोला जिसमें कहा गया था:

*हवाई जहाज को उडा़ने के लिए, कृपया हरा बटन दबाए.*

उसने ऐसा किया और विमान उड़ने लगा। वह उत्साहित था ... !!

उड़ान भरने के 20 मिनट बाद, वह संतुष्ट था और अब उतरना चाहता था इसलिए उसने चौथे पेज पर जाने का फैसला किया ...

चौथे पेज मे लिखा था,

*आप विमान उड़ाने मे पारंगत हो चुके हैं. अब अगर आप यह भी सीखना चाहते हों कि किसी उड़ते विमान को उतारा कैसे जाए, तो कृपया किसी पास वाली पुस्तक की दुकान से इस किताब का द्वितीय पार्ट ( वॉल्यूम 2 ​​) खरीद लें!"

सीख :: जिसका काम उसी को साजे...* कभी भी पूरी जानकारी के बिना कोई पंगा नहीं लेना चाहिए .

Satyam Shivam Sundaram

This is one piece of achievement that rewards liberation from mind related miseries. The person is able to move to the abode of Sat-Chit-Anand. 

Sat : The person realises that there is a ONE (this one is expressed as not two - absence of dvaita therefore Advaita). This one manifests as many, in many, though the many (are but appearances) are manifestations of the one. That is the truth - SAT.

Chit : Chit is translated at knowledge. Chit is a mind that is unsullied by influences of the psyche. The psyche being a distorting influence that changes the unsullied view of self, others (particular others and others generally) and of the world. The unsullied mind is the soul aspect of the Sat as the all 'knowing' 'witness observer'.

Ananda : Ananda is the blissful, peace dominant, grounded, settled mind of a realised person.

Such an emancipated person is liberated because the person finds him / herself free of ownership (hence possession) in any dimension or format. 

This view is based on the content of Chapters 4, 5, 6 and 7 of the Ashtavakra Gita.

 

Our True Self

A car is made up of metal, plastic, composite, liquids and gasses as parts.

They are put together to make assemblies.

Assemblies put together make the car's parts.

Parts are put together to make the machinery, body and chasis.

These are put together to make a car.

The car has three identities at this stage. Manufacturer, Model and Year of Manufacture.

The car's identity becomes unique when the engine number and chasis number are stamped or engraved.

It gains an unique identity when it is registered with the transport authority post sale.  It then gets possessed. The owner becomes the possessor. A non entity becomes owned.

Same is the case with us all. Our primary origin is the egg from which we were born. Prior to it we were in the form of food our maternal grandma ate.

The egg on fertilisation became ovum and on attaching to the uterine wall an embryo and subsequently an growing embryo, thence a foetus and then a living baby after 23 weeks of pregnancy. We were born in roughly the 40th week of pregnancy of our mother. We had one of two identities - male and female. 

Stage of Company, Model and Date of Manufacture of a Car.

Our parents received us. We were then formally named and possessed even registered with the birth registry.

Stage of Car's Registration. We were possessed with a name, parental names and family name. With it came our tribe, race, caste and religion.

At around 18 month's we recognised ourself as ourself when we looked at ourself in the mirror and sort of said to ourself - that's me. We came to possess ourselves.

Around the age of three years was when we asserted our identity as in I, he, she, we, they etc. The ego was born.

We then started fighting to protect, promote and assert our ego to others through resistance, ownership and belonging - with name and qualities - the ego was moulded.

We then started promoting our unique identity around the time we grew to be some 15 - 16 years of age.

The we became owners of others - our brothers and sisters, parents, people in the extended family, friends, associates, company etc. The ego firmed up.

Coming to know our true Ideentity.

Similar to the origins of the car to be atoms and molecules (these are universal) we too are made of food our maternal grandma ate (again the same or similar atoms and molecules).

Similar to the identity formation and name and fame of car, we too gained an inflated ego. Our real identity got lost.

So what is our real identity. The universal one to which our origins can be traced. Next our being and existence as givens. Thirdly the innate capacity and urge to know i. e. pursuing consciousness.

Erasing the ego methodically is one of many ways to realise our true Identity.

Please care to read another post on consciousness by tapping here -> CONSCIOUSNESS  

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Father who staked his life to save his daughter's life

Quora Story - This father staked his own life to save the life of his daughter.

This is John Eisenman. He lost his daughter to sexual trafficking. She was sold for $1,000 in Seattle Washington. He did what a father should do and researched, investigated and found out about her abduction. He RESCUED her HIMSELF.

He found out the person who sold her into trafficking was her 19 year old boyfriend. He met up with him, abducted him, bludgeoned and stabbed him to death in Nov, 2020.

The authorities found him [dead AF boyfriend] in Oct 2021 in the trunk of the car he abandoned. John Eisenman sits in jail knowing his daughter is safe and growing up after he has already lived 60 years of his life. I bet you, he rests easy.

Live your life to the fullest. Do your absolute best to make sure your children have the opportunity to do the same no matter what the sacrifice. I will be sending John some commissary money. I hope he gets to see freedom with his daughter one day. He deserves a medal 🏅

Truth according to Vedas

The fundamental principle of Vedanta is oneness.

There is one Existence, one Life, one Spirit, one Being in the universe. The idea of separateness is unreal. Vedants does not teach, that the phenomenal world is a mere illusion. It teaches that the underlying reality of the universe is the absolute Being which is one and one without the second lekamevádvitiyam'. What is regarded as Illusion or delusion in Vedanta is not the phenomenal, but the attribution of true substantiality or essentiality to the phenomenal without the recognition of the underlying unity.

It is generally known as nescience (ajnâa) that hides the glory of the absolute Being. The same absolute Being is called by various names. It is Brahman in Vedanta, the Good by Plato, the Substantia of Spinoza, Ding-an-Sich by Kant, the Unknown and Unknowable of Herbert Spencer, the Will by Schopenhaeur, Oversold by Emerson calls it Oversoul. But Vedanta differs from these systems by unifying the subject and object in Brahman.

Vedanta philosophy brings the thing-in-itself within the plane of experience and recognizes it in the conception of entity, sat (Existence) which has all other things as attributes or relations. The same Brahman is sat from the objective point of view, and cit or pure intelligence from the subjective standpoint. It is the infinite source of knowledge: it is the eternal knower of the universe. The same Brahman, when qualified by cosmic self-consciousness, omniscience and omnipotence, appears as the ruler of the universe. When qualified by the individual consciousness and imperfect knowledge, it constitutes the individual soul, and when qualified by total absence of self-consciousness, it forms the object or what we call ‘matter’.

Thus Vedanta philosophy recognizes three entities in the universe, God, soul and matter. The God of Vedanta philosophy is not an extra cosmic something, but it is the inner and underlying reality of the cosmic world, it forms the background of the world, and it exists both inside and outside of the world.

Vedanta philosophy also gives a rational foundation to religion which harmonizes with the modern conclusions of science and philosophy. It teaches that the soul is immortal and divine, and the knowledge of the soul brings emancipation to man.

Vedanta philosophy teaches that emancipation of the soul (i.e. individual soul) is freedom from the bondages of selfishness and other imperfections. The ethics of Vedanta philosophy is entirely based upon the attainment of God consciousness which means the recognition of oneness of the individual soul with the absolute Brahman.

Edited text from preface to book The Vedanta Philosophy by Swami Abhedananda.

Consciousness - 3

Consciousness - 3

A resulting condition marked by being conscious of whatever we are consciously aware of, such as affects, sensations, feelings, emotions, thoughts, condition of our mind, our existence, state and condition of our existence.

Who deserves what. Who we really are.

Who deserves what. Who we really are.

Do we deserve a ceramic cup or a styrofoam cup. (A post from https://www.alearning a day.blog/2018/05/31)

We only deserve a styrofoam cup

As a response to a post on power recently, Ashay shared the following story from Simon Sinek. It is one I’ve thought about it a few times since and I thought I’d share.

I heard a story about a former Under Secretary of Defense who gave a speech at a large conference. He took his place on the stage and began talking, sharing his prepared remarks with the audience. He paused to take a sip of coffee from the Styrofoam cup he’d brought on stage with him. He took another sip, looked down at the cup and smiled.

“You know,” he said, interrupting his own speech, “I spoke here last year. I presented at this same conference on this same stage. But last year, I was still an Under Secretary,” he said.

“I flew here in business class and when I landed, there was someone waiting for me at the airport to take me to my hotel. Upon arriving at my hotel,” he continued, “there was someone else waiting for me. They had already checked me into the hotel, so they handed me my key and escorted me up to my room. The next morning, when I came down, again there was someone waiting for me in the lobby to drive me to this same venue that we are in today. I was taken through a back entrance, shown to the greenroom and handed a cup of coffee in a beautiful ceramic cup.”

“But this year, as I stand here to speak to you, I am no longer the Under Secretary,” he continued. “I flew here coach class and when I arrived at the airport yesterday there was no one there to meet me. I took a taxi to the hotel, and when I got there, I checked myself in and went by myself to my room. This morning, I came down to the lobby and caught another taxi to come here. I came in the front door and found my way backstage. Once there, I asked one of the techs if there was any coffee. He pointed to a coffee machine on a table against the wall. So I walked over and poured myself a cup of coffee into this here Styrofoam cup,” he said as he raised the cup to show the audience.

“It occurs to me,” he continued, “the ceramic cup they gave me last year . . . it was never meant for me at all. It was meant for the position I held. I deserve a Styrofoam cup.”

“This is the most important lesson I can impart to all of you,” he offered.

“All the perks, all the benefits and advantages you may get for the rank or position you hold, they aren’t meant for you. They are meant for the role you fill. And when you leave your role, which eventually you will, they will give the ceramic cup to the person who replaces you. Because you only ever deserved a Styrofoam cup.”